In the last two days I have heard that two young couples, with children, are getting divorced. I am sad to hear this…these two couples were so excited to get married, shared in the joys of parenthood but after just a few short years have decided to go their separate ways.
I don’t know the specifics and I don’t want to speculate. It is just sad to see four young people, who love the Lord and who loved each other at one time find they must separate and divorce. Who I feel really bad for are the little ones. They are 5, 2 and 1…having grown up in my own family of divorced parents ~ they divorced when I was eight I know how hard it is to be the child of divorced parents.
My parents hated each other. I never heard either of them say a kind word to or about each other. I want to tell each of these four young people “no matter how you feel about your ex-spouse, don’t say negative things about them in front of your children. In your eyes they may have been hurtful, mean, crazy, whatever BUT in your child’s eyes they are their Mommy or Daddy. They love their mommy and daddy.
Maybe you are right and they are bad, mean, crazy, whatever ~ let your children find that out for themselves. If what you say/believe is true than the truth will come out.
If I could have asked my parents to do one thing for me that would be “please don’t tell me how bad, wrong, crazy my mom/dad is” he/she is my mom/dad and I love them. And please don’t keep me from them ~ I need and want them in my life. If the day comes that I don’t want to be around them or have issues with them then let me decide that on my own.
I can’t say anything to change any of these young people’s minds but what I can do is pray for each of them and for their children. Especially for the little ones. Their little lives are being turned upside down right now ~ they need all the love they can get. And that is what I pray for ~ for the Lord to surround them with parents who love them, who can be respectful of each other in the presence of those little ones and most importantly for the little ones to always know and remember THEY are not responsible for their parents actions and choices.