It’s Been Awhile ~

Life has been tough! Life just seems to be ????? heck I can’t even think of a word to describe it ~ it just has been tough!!!

Someone asked me why I hadn’t written anything in awhile ~ I’ve been thinking about that and my first response is “I’m just tired.” And then I realized I am just tired of everything that seems so heavy, so negative, so stagnant. And then I ask WHY? What has changed in my life…and I reflect back to the middle of March 2020. My anxiety was high, we were preparing to travel for 5 days to go see Ron’s oncologist for his annual cancer check up. Hard to believe it had been two years since his surgery to remove the nasty C.

For the most part we don’t watch the news every day but since we would be traveling we were watching the weather reports and talk of Covid was beginning to run rampant. Yes it was scary, yes it is a nasty bug but life for us continued…we faced what we needed to face and put one foot in front of the other. Tensions were running high here in our home. The little’s were anxious about us being gone for 5 nights, we were anxious of what would the doctor’s find, we were concerned how the little’s would do. It was the beginning of Spring Break and we had had to change our plans from a camping trip to a doctor’s visit. And yet we still put one foot in front of the other.

The doctor’s appointments went well. Cancer is still gone. The only concern voiced was Ron’s weight…but that is nothing new; we have both battled being overweight for all of our adult lives. What a relief. We both commented that night as we laid in bed how relieved we each were, apologized to each other for our shortness with each other and planned a nice one last night out without little’s for our return to the ranch.

And then life threw a punch…quarantined to the ranch. By the time the kids went back to school it was 159 days from school day to school day. Yes, we got out a bit: took the kidlets to the drive thru Safari in San Antonio, only getting out of the truck to go to the restroom, we bought a little blow up pool and the kids had many “swim days” right here at home but for the most part it was Ron or I going to the grocery store or picking up the mail. Even trips to the office were cancelled unless absolutely necessary. Kids did counseling via Zoom, even did a couple of doctor appointments via Zoom ~ do you know how hard it is to keep a 5 year old engaged in a conversation with a face on the screen to be diagnosed and treated by a physician. In my opinion, it was pretty worthless.

Then unexpected changes happened, got new kids to our home due to staff changes. Little’s were moved to a foster adopt home, start to finish was less than four weeks, crazy times for sure, more schedule changes here at the ranch, rumors and anxiety flew at a rapid pace about the future of the ranch, our jobs and then we were scrambling to get the kid’s stuff for school not knowing, were they going in person or would it be remote. Our girl decided she was going to go to school ~ a good move for her as it got her out of the house, she gets to see friends and interact with others.

And then I realized through it all that my depression was lurking around every corner. Visually appearing as exhaustion, lots of exhaustion, absolutely no energy to do anything. Yes I kept cooking for the family, attended the necessary training’s for the job, did what needed to be done but my heart was not in it, I was and am just plain tired.

And yet, through it all I have kept moving forward, slower at times with lots of naps thrown in and yet I haven’t totally given up. Though at times I would like to crawl into my recliner, crochet and watch TV and hide and hibernate from all, and some days I did just that…I give myself kudos for not totally throwing in the towel.

And so today, I find myself asking what do I need to do to get out of this funk…to get energy back, to feel alive and not like a slug. So I did what I know to do. I opened my Bible for a short devotion yesterday and today and always, always God has met me where I am.

Yesterday my devotion was titled “Bountiful Benefits” and this morning was “Relief from Your Distress” ~ yes, Jesus met me right where I am…God accepts me right where I am and loves me unconditionally and I was reminded that God forgives, He heals, He encourages and I am good enough just the way I am AND I have much to be thankful for…family, friends (even though the circle has gotten smaller ~ I think more my choice than anything), a job that doesn’t really feel like a job most of the time, the ability to be with my hubby most all the time and even when he does something that drives me crazy or makes me want to slap the sh** out of him, I am thankful for Ron, for Ron’s love for me and the patience he shows me when I drive him crazy or ask for three kinds of ice cream on a rainy night when he really doesn’t want to go out but he goes to the store anyway. Yes I am blessed beyond measure.

I am encouraged to cry out to the Lord, to give thanks for everything, to keep on trusting Him and to know that

For my good! I may not understand the why’s or how come’s but I do know that I am never alone and that no matter what happens with our jobs, our living situation or ??? that God is in control and that no matter what happens today or tomorrow, in the end everything will work together for good!

Me Today

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If you know me, you know I have been struggling with exhaustion for the past four to six weeks. And I am still exhausted. I slept from 9:30p to 7:30a which is nine hours if you figure in the 1 hour time change. I went back to bed at 9:15 when Ron left with the five kidlets for Sunday School and church. I woke up at 11:30a so that is now 11+ hours of sleep today.

I got up, showered and dressed, put some eggs on to boil, made the kidlets lunch of PB & J, got Ron and two of the kidlets out the door for baseball & softball practice and here it is 1:30p and I’m having a hard time staying awake…

I don’t understand where the exhaustion is coming from. Or why I have it and I have been thinking back to the years I dealt with insomnia where I went for almost four years only getting 1 to 4 hours of sleep a night and functioning at full board as a wife, mom, HR office manager, sports mom, friend, co-hort…busy all the time, doing stuff with friends and family and kids and more of the same and here today I can barely keep myself awake.

I used to complain I couldn’t get a good night’s sleep now I am complaining I am sleeping WAY too much…is there a happy balance…I don’t know but I sure wish I could find it.

I want to say Sorry for grumbling and venting but I need to share my feelings with someone…and I know Ron is tired of my complaining that I’m tired and I’m sure the kidlets are tired of my complaining I’m tired…HECK I’m tired of complaining I’m tired.

I have upped my water intake till I pee more than I sleep 🙂

I have taken the dog for a walk, thinking if I just force myself to get out and move I would have a bit more energy…isn’t that what they say…exercise and you will feel rejuvenated??

I think I will go and peel the eggs and then pick up my crocheting. The dress I made for Little Bit was just too big…in fact, it fit her sister and looks great with leggings…need to finish her hairband and then start a new dress for Little Bit and a headband to match and then I have 5 projects in my WIP pile (works in progress) and about 10 projects on the need/request list!!!

So my question for the day ~
How or what do you do to counter exhaustion, full blown exhaustion???